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Letting go of perfection and cancer cells!

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Love this Lori! 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

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Saying good bye to having a plan.

Also, super sad the subscriber zoom in March is on a work day for me. I’ve found the gatherings incredibly cathartic for me, but alas I will be educating 17 4 & 5 year olds.

Thank you for all you bring to this space.

Bowing in gratitude 🙏🏻

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Thanks for this feedback Alison— we may move it back to the weekend, and I’ll of course keep everyone updated! 🩷

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Sounds like this is a great move from the chat then! I also am ok with things being a little easier where they can be. There's enough hard stuff to deal with!

I'm letting go of the stomach bug! My son brought it home last weekend. One by one, it took us all down. I thought I had escaped it despite being the caretaker for the other three. But it got me yesterday. I got lots of sleep and am a little less miserable right now. So. Bye, Norovirus. Please don't come back, preferably ever!

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Ugh my daughter had this virus and it was no joke. So glad you’re on the other side! 🙏🏻

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I'm half-assed breaking up with social media this week. Michael Franti of Spearheads new song has been on my mind a lot the last few weeks...aka he's been slow roll promoting it on IG and every time it hits in thinking "wtf am I scrolling my life away?" I'll post the link at the end, though I have no idea if links work in the comments, so ya'll might have to find it on YouTube the snail search bar way. Anyway the short of it is that I have a gripping need after many episodes of trauma to know what is going on everywhere all at once. I imagine it will help me be better prepared, which in some situations it might .. but longterm... it fries tf (swear jars would bankrupt me Amber) out of creativity. Therefore, I am gonna give it my best half-assed try to give up the socials on the weekends... like we used to do before the tiny king came down that effing escalator and introduced this nightmare. It's a start anyway. And like Michael Franti sings... "break up with what you don't need" and I sure as hell don't need to doom scroll so many minutes of my life away. https://youtu.be/6h7gbzaiyQ8?feature=shared

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Love this thank you for sharing the video!! And I am off of social media for the considerable future, even though it is very hard for me. Hoping to write an essay on this soon— sharing all the ways we can resist. 🩷

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Finding a way to ride this riptide out... I'm reading and watching videos offered by sourced authors and journalists... dailys and deep dives... and TRYING to avoid second by second breaking news freak outs. It's a process. Breaking up with breaking news.

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I have 3 videos/sources/journalists I watch and that's it. I can't do more without imploding and hiding.

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I feel you. Strategizing ways to breathe in the middle of hellscape.

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I recently left social media too(three weeks and counting) and have been writing about that and what we can do to stay proactive in this current bullshit:

https://nikkiallen.substack.com/p/know-your-rights

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Holy shit ya'll posting links on here works 😊

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Saying goodbye to NYC this week, but not forever. It was a great vacation, nothing to be anxious about (of course!), and I can't wait to come back. P.S. for local folks: if you haven't visited Luna Luna at The Shed yet, DO IT. It nearly left me speechless.

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Hope you had a great time Anna!

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I did! Every time I visit, it's a reminder of how amazing the city is.

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Letting go of what I “should” do and doing what is right for me. As a people pleasing perfectionist still at the beginning of recovery, taking on more at work is just not what I need to be doing right now.

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Excellent let go!

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Another voice added to letting go of doing things the hard way. Between (gestures toward D.C.) and losing my mother last week to a 2-year-long decline from a TBI, my capacity is small and my priorities clearer.

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Sending you so much love Tracie. 🤗

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I think the way to put this is: I’m letting go of stressing over HOW things happen and just letting things happen. Control, to a huge extent, is overrated!!!

And Amber omg- I’m so so glad you shared all you did. I knew doing this is a lot, hadn’t the fullest idea of HOW MUCH. WOW, thank you so very much. Looking forward to The New and hoping it’ll be so much easier for you!

Love to all ye LITD fam!!!💕

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🩷🩷🩷

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I have been sick on-and-off for two weeks, but also depressed, which I think helped to keep me on-and-off. I want to let go of feeling only safe in my bedroom/bed and get back out into the world where I want to be (well, mostly. Sometimes. I do want to be out of bed, at least).

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I had no idea how much I needed this. Thank you for sharing with us 🩷

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Love the move from the chat to the posts!

I yelled at my boss this morning. He’d sent an email to me and the Nurse Practitioner I work with saying we hadn’t documented a patient who’d been admitted yesterday’s blood pressure management appropriately. And I wrote back a three paragraph email explaining what had happened, then I called him and said this NP is burned out and he’s needs to ease up. But it came out as “Go fuck yourself!” Because it’s goddamn Saturday and him working when we’re supposedly off sends a signal to everyone below him that we’re all supposed to work all weekend. And I’m taking Sharon Salzberg’s 28 day meditation challenge for the 11th year/ February in a row and we’re to week four Loving Kindness. And after losing it at my boss, I tried to come back to my body, feel the anger, and let it go. The idea of feedback well intended that reads as criticism and the NPs in series quitting because they don’t feel supported- it’s not my job to make anyone stay in a job they don’t feel supported in. And I can let go of being offended on other people’s behalf. I can let go of the perfectionism and people pleasing that says if I make a mistake, I’m gonna be dragged for it (because I grew up with an emotionally & physically abusive mother) so I never could mess up. And that’s my child self who’s scared to death of being called out and raked over the coals for any slight infraction. Letting go of all that sadness from my child self who was terrified all the damn time and unable to express emotion because my mother wouldn’t quit spanking me until I quit crying so it meant I couldn’t cry as a kid.

Love you Amber. Thanks for creating this safe space for all of us.

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Woah I love this! I got back into meditation at the end of last year and it has been so tremendously helpful. I was taught transcendental meditation over a decade ago and find it to be just the salve I need in difficult times. Sending you lots of love Ida!

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In my German class this afternoon, i let go of my shame about "not doing all my homeworks". I had done all my other homeworks, but had forgotten that we were supposed to memorize a short story and read it aloud in class. While in class, I quickly asked Microsoft copilot to give me such a story for A1 level. And read it when it was my turn. I wanna do more of things like this to learn how to react quicker.

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I just read this comment to my 8 year old daughter (I hope you don’t mind) because she’s been feeling really upset at not being able to finish her own homework, and I wanted her to know that adults struggle, too. It’s hard for all of us! Thanks for sharing. 🧡

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Oh, Amber. Thanks for reading my comment to your daughter (i don't mind, btw). Yes, it's hard for all of us, especially for us females.

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Remember to stay present… yes to this! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙌🏻

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